How Thanksgiving has already come and gone baffles me. Really. I mean this year flew faster than ever before. That means New Years is right around the corner and then we start all over again.
This is truly the most wonderful time of the year, for so many reasons, however it seems to do funny things to people. Aside from the standard family drama that comes out during this time, people all over the world at one point or another are overcome by loneliness. It’s like right after Halloween, that feeling starts setting in. But why?
Could it be because of the endless commercials where the girl gives the guy the awesome sweater or the guy gives the girl a mysterious red box and her face lights up? Or the festive holiday greeting card aisle at CVS that appears and is dedicated solely “To Him” and “To Her”? Or because the most amazing movies are played at this time, people leave town, and it’s fun to be lazy with someone? Or because it’s also the time when you remember loved ones that are no longer living or part of your life?
I get it. Holiday loneliness is a different beast altogether. It’s the time you create memories and feel all warm and fuzzy inside and want to share it with someone, not just in a friendly way. It’s the season of songs like “All I want for Christmas is you,” “I Miss You Most at Christmas Time,” and “Baby It’s Cold Outside” and movies like While You Were Sleeping and The Family Stone. I’ve been in relationships the past few holiday seasons so I can’t say that I have felt this strain of loneliness in a while, however there was one year that I went as far as having a “Winter Boyfriend” to avoid it. He was, and still is, a friend that was in town over the holidays and we were both single, yet interested in the possibility of dating. We decided to give it a shot so we’d always have a plus one or date during that holiday season. We were together Christmas day on my family’s boat in Miami, and together on New Years Eve as well. Then the holidays came to an end and so did our winter relationship. It was genius.
That particular situation worked out but I wouldn’t suggest settling just to have a body around during the holidays if you don’t really have an interest in them. If you’re overcome by loneliness, I suggest spending extra time with family and friends and reach out to people you haven’t seen or spoken to in a while. Maybe buy a Snuggie so you will be cozy sans snuggler. Start going to the gym now instead of waiting until you make a New Years resolution for it. Create a blog, if I can do it, you can too. Anything to keep you busy. Enjoy the holidays and focus on all of the wonderful things you do have, rather than the one person you don’t have. If all else fails, go to as many holiday parties as you can and stand under the mistletoe.